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650	2	7	_9103 _aCHILD ABUSE
710	2		_92554 _aNew Zealand. Ministry of Social Development. Family and Community Services
999			_c2576 _d2576
001			115245
005			20250625151216.0
008			110331s2008 eng
020			_a9780478335156 (hbk.)
040			_aWSS _dAFV
082	0		_a362.82920922 ITS
100			_aTolerton, Jane _92216
245			_aIt's time we started telling these stories _cTolerton, Jane
250			_a1st ed.
260			_aWellington, N.Z. _bFamily and Community Services, Ministry of Social Development _c2008
300			_a22 cm. ; 141 p.
365			_a00 _b0
500			_aRecommended reading
505	0	0	_tIntroduction, p.2 My career has definitely come out of my childhood experiences : Elaine's story, illustrated by Ruslan Idrisov, p. 4 Violence begets violence : Tremain's story, illustrated by Jordan Wisniewski, p. 22 Those are clouds that are cove
520			_aIn this book eight people tell their personal stories of the family violence they experienced as children and how this affected the rest of their lives. These stories give hope that lives can be healed and that the cycle of violence can be broken. The idea for the book came from a women's hui about family violence held in Hamilton in 2006. After the hui it was decided to record people's stories because they show so vividly what the real effects of violence are for children - and the adults they become. One attendee at the hui said 'It's time we started telling these stories' - and that statement was chosen as the title for this book. Their stories show the devastating effects of family violence as it is passed on from one generation to the next. They illustrate the different forms and intensity of the results. For some the major effect was physical as they perpetuated violence in their own families; for others it meant a lifetime of anxiety. Their strength and resilience is obvious in their stories. These stories are intended to help others who have suffered from family violence and to help New Zealanders understand the impact of family violence on individuals, their families and their communities. We know that children are damaged by violence in the home - whether they see it, hear it or just know about it. It has been proven that the brain development of preschoolers is profoundly inhibited by exposure to violence in the home. Family violence thrives in secrecy - so the more we talk about it and understand it, the more likely we are to prevent it. These stories give hope that lives can be healed and that the cycle of violence can be broken. Contents Introduction, p.2 My career has definitely come out of my childhood experiences : Elaine's story, illustrated by Ruslan Idrisov, p. 4 Violence begets violence : Tremain's story, illustrated by Jordan Wisniewski, p. 22 Those are clouds that are covering the sun : Margaret's story, illustrated by Caley Wiki, p. 38 That anxiety-ridden waiting game of my childhood : Sophia's story, illustrated by Olivia Coetzee, p.54 We do choose our behaviours : George's story, illustrated by Vanessa Morrison, p.70 I thought I had "come and abuse me" written on my forehead Lucy's story, illustrated by Zoe Fannin, p.86 It hit you in the heart : Jane's story, illustrated by Kirstyn Hatton, p.104 It's about the whole of society : Lorri's story, illustrated by Polina Outkina, p.120 Acknowledgments, p.140 Afterword, p.141
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650	2	7	_aRECOMMENDED READING _96431
650	2	7	_aAUTOBIOGRAPHY _975
650	2	7	_aCHILD EXPOSURE TO VIOLENCE _9130
650	2	7	_aDOMESTIC VIOLENCE _9203
650	2	7	_aINTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE _9431
650	2	7	_aNARRATIVE TECHNIQUES _9399
650	2	4	_aVICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE _9624
651		4	_aNEW ZEALAND _92588
856	4		_uhttp://www.realstories.org.nz/
942			_2ddc _cBOOK